One Parenting Secret Will Help You Become the Best Mom
There’s no such thing as a perfect parent.
In June 2022, I became a mom for the 2nd time.👼
To be a family of four was a dream come true for us. I felt an unmatched love for my newborn. At the same time, I felt anxious.
So anxious, I often found myself crying inconsolably.
My BIG question?
How would I take care of my toddler and the newborn?
I’m sure other mommies’ can relate. Postpartum recovery is tough—And, above all, the dilemma of being the perfect mother. I didn’t realize the amount of pressure I was putting on myself, the guilt of not being there for my daughter as I did before the birth of my baby boy.
So I paused.
Despite my husband’s incredible support. I needed to find my equilibrium in this new situation.
I needed to find this one secret to become the best mom.
One Parenting Secret Will Help You Become the Best Mom
I started reading about parenting, this time to learn to take care of my overwhelming emotions and, most importantly, how to handle my daughter’s big emotions.
Here’s what I learned…
“There’s no such thing as a perfect parent.”
You’ll be surprised to know that the minute this epiphany hit me, I had a deep sense of calm in my entire body.
I told myself I don’t have to be this perfect, flawless, best mom all the time.
A quote by Australian Psychologist Rachel Simson’s I follow on Instagram, resonated with me—
“Our children don’t need parents who strive for perfection; they need parents willing to engage in self-reflection. ”— Rachel Simson.
Simson further elaborates in her post that children need parents who acknowledge they are imperfect (human), are willing to engage in self-reflection, are open to feedback, and are willing to make positive changes that benefit the parent-child relationship.
The word imperfect stuck with me.
These are the self-love affirmations I journaled every day
✅Yes, I’m a mom, and being imperfect is okay.
✅I acknowledged the fact that there is a newborn in the family, and yes, things are tough at the moment, but it will get better.
By engaging in my self-reflection, I was able to make these three positive changes in my parenting:
✅I spent quality time with my daughter each day. I read to her every night before bedtime.
✅ I encouraged her to express her emotions about how she felt about becoming a big sister.
✅ Most importantly, I let her take her time to bond with her brother.
I was able to find a balance in my new family dynamic.
Last Word
Parenting is tough. However, the essential ingredient that makes you the Best Mom to your child is ‘reflection, not perfection.’
Be willing to self-reflect, accept criticism and make positive changes in your parenting. And you’ll see how it immediately changes your relationship with your child. It will make your child feel you care for them and have their back.
Remember, mommies’ constant childreflection, not perfection, is the secret to becoming the best mom.😇
